How to Find a Threesome?

Having a threesome is a fantasy for lots of people, but it can be a challenge to pull of. Knowing where to look for a threesome isn’t always obvious.

Threesomes clearly happen, so there must be a place where couples go to find a person to join them. The internet has sure made the process easier, and there are lots of apps, some specifically for threesomes, others just known to have lots of sexually adventurous people on hand.

Whether you’re looking to be the one-night mystery person joining a relationship, or a couple wanting to add extra holes in your bed, we’re going to look at:

Why people fantasize about threesomes
What to look for in good threesome partners
Where to find people for your threesome

Why do people like threesomes?

Having a threesome is a top sexual fantasy for about two thirds of non-heterosexual women and the same proportion of heterosexual men. For hetero women, it’s a little more than half.

Why is a threesome the most popular sexual fantasy?

Everyone who actively seeks this type of sex will do it for their own reasons. Some people may see it as an act of power over their partner, others may see it as a way to safely explore their non-hetero urges in a safe space, while lots of people just enjoy the extra pleasure.

It can be a way to bring a couple closer together by having a shared, risky, sexual experience. It can be liberating for the unicorn – the magical person who enters the couple’s relationship for fun and frolics.

What makes a good threesome partner?

When you’re a couple considering bringing in a third person to your bed, you need to have a detailed conversation about what you both want. The decision needs to be mutual – no one should ever guilt a partner into having sex with someone else.

Boundaries also need to be established. Ask each other:

Are there any kinks that are off limits?
Is kissing the unicorn allowed?
Can the man penetrate the unicorn?
Do you have roleplays that you want to include in your threesome?

These types of questions will help you understand each other and help you choose the right person to fit in between you.

As the unicorn, or third person in a threesome – you need to find a couple that matches your sexual desires. You may want to have clear rules and boundaries, or have a more open-minded sexual experience. It’s ok to set your own boundaries, too.

Where do I go looking for threesomes?

Whilst picking up a third person or hooking up with a couple in a bar is always a possibility, it could take a long time to find someone interested in what you propose. Use the power of the mobile app to make your search easier.

The best apps for finding a threesome

Tinder

Famed for being the app that everyone uses to get laid, Tinder is likely to have men and women looking to join your relationship for a night.

Generally, the women will find each other for an FFM (two females and a male) threesome whilst the second man in MMF will usually be found by the woman – but that’s not a hard and fast rule.

To be successful looking for a threesome on Tinder, be clear with your matches. Even consider adding it into your bio if you’re ok with people local to you potentially seeing it.

OkCupid

Another general dating app, OkCupid is known to have people of a range of sexualities and genders. You can easily specify your sexual preferences and it’s possible to link two profiles together. This means that your potential threesome buddy can check you both out.

3rder

3rder in an app that’s dedicated to helping connect couples and singles to create a threesome. It allows for couple or single profiles and you can specify which genders you’re looking for and if want one or two people to join you.

A major issue with this app is the paywalled features. You can only see messages if you’ve paid for the $9.99 per month membership, and any details of your socials will get starred out. It’s very much a pay to play app.

3way

Designed to connect people specifically looking for threesomes as well, 3way is more accessible for people who aren’t keen on paying for a basic service.

You can search for people near you or people who have recently signed up. You also have access to the “Show”, where singles and couples can post photos and what they’re looking for to try. This can help speed up the threesome-finding process.

Feeld

Last on our list of threesome apps is Feeld. The feel of the app is more modern than the other two threesome-centered apps we’ve looked at. There is a lot of information available without paying – the only thing you can’t access is the people who’ve liked you.

It’s easy to define what you’re looking for in terms of kinks and fetishes, and you can either create a couples account or link two single accounts depending on what your needs are.