5 Steps to Being Better in Bed

Is your relationship good but your sex life needs improvement? There are many couples that feel their relationship is doing fine after years of dating or being married, but their sex life is on the decline. Is that normal?

People will tell you it is. It simply is the way things work when you are in the relationship for longer than a year, or if married other priorities appear such as children, career, finances, thus sex falls short. Well, it might be normal for some, but sure isn’t satisfying to many. It is the way relationships and even marriages fall apart eventually. People grow distant, further apart, excitement disappears and romantic occasions fall down to birthdays, holidays, and occasional New Year celebration.

Why would that be normal? Why would people settle down for such a dull way of being in any kind of romantic relationship when they can fill their days with passion, love, and excitement and grow happier together? I’m not talking about having sex every day – although it wouldn’t hurt (well, unless you’re 80 years old, then you might hurt your back a little), but simply spark the passion between the two of you and be happy in every moment that you have together.

If you’re interested in finding out how, read on.

Start initiating sex first

Have you forgotten how it’s done? Chances are, you have because your man is initiating sex more often than you do, and that can be a problem. Namely, you might think you show you want sex by accepting his “proposal” every time but in his head (the upper one, at least) that’s not the case. He will be satisfied for a while, but at one point he’ll grow tired of always being the one wanting to have sex while the other side seems indifferent.

So, this is where you should come in and start initiating sex first. Not always, as it should be balanced, but from time to time. Change the place, the time, the way it’s done – make him anticipate it and think about you all the time.

Show your true colors

It surely takes confidence to initiate sex and take the lead in the act. However, that is nothing to be ashamed about enjoying sex and feeling good in your skin. Showing what you truly about require knowledge, being familiar with what you like and dislike and how your partner can make you feel good. This involves taking the time to get to know yourself when alone, knowing the right touches and strokes that satisfy you and learning how to communicate those with your partner.

They don’t say ‘confidence is sexy’ for nothing, it absolutely is, and there’s nothing else turning your partner on like taking the lead and telling him how good he makes you feel.

Kinky is the way to be!

Speaking of being confident, sex toys are so popular for a reason. If you think that’s not for you and you’re just fine with how things are, you are wrong. You are simply taking the wrong approach and looking at stuff from the wrong perspective. Thing is, sex toys aren’t only there to give you an orgasm. They are there to make things fun and exciting even if you and your partner come in the classical, ‘natural’ way. With them, you will start looking at the act of sex not only as a way to ‘finish’ and go on with your day but as an adult’s playtime. Why can’t we play and be happy too?

Start off with the simple vibrator and slowly let your inhibitions run wild with the kinkier stuff out there.

Blowjobs aren’t reserved for special occasions

Stop pushing off blowjobs for special occasions and even then doing them with absolute indifference and even disgust. Giving head isn’t just a way to please him and feel ‘degraded’ it’s a way to make yourself feel good too. Simply by watching your partner at his utmost pleasure, enjoying himself all relaxed, you will get aroused too, and better sex is guaranteed after.

By blowing him you show you want him to feel good too, you show selfless love and he will surely reciprocate in the same manner.

Be open to new experiences

Apart from sex toys, there are a plethora of other things to try and experiment with to spice up your love life. Simply be open to new stuff, learn to talk to your partner about what he fantasizes about and tune in your own wishes and fantasies. If that’s dress up, head to the costume shop and become a hot student who would do anything for a little help with her homework. A busy nurse on a nightshift is another absolute hit your man will love. Into firefighters? Let him work hard putting off your fire. The possibilities are endless and with good communication, there’s nothing holding you back from improving your sex life.

Final word

All in all, if you feel as if you no longer enjoy your sex life and pleasing your man is harder and harder to do, you don’t have to feel helpless. With these 5 methods, he won’t be able to stop thinking about you. Remember though, it takes two to tango, so whatever effort you’re putting in it should be reciprocated from his side. So, if you’re looking for some change and improvement, this is the time to do just that!