What exactly happens in a threesome?

A threesome of three-way is what you’ve probably guessed it is – when three people come together and have sex. Watching porn, they seem pretty simple and rather common, but is that the case?

Having sex with more than one person at a time is a fantasy for lots of people. There’s a lot of myth that comes with threesomes and it can be hard to understand what to do and even where to start.

Before you head out into the world and start looking for a threesome, it’s useful to understand a few things about what one is. To help you out, we’re going to get into:

• The different types of threesomes you need to know about
• What you can expect to happen during a threesome
• The meaning of a unicorn when you have a threesome
• Rules you need to know to have a successful three-way

So you can expand your sex life armed with knowledge.

What are the different types of threesomes?

There are different ways you can have a threesome. They all depend on the genders of the people involved.

Traditional three-way sex situations get given labels, but there aren’t any rules about what genders can and can’t mix. Anyone can take part in a threesome, but this is the terminology that’s commonly used.

What does FFM mean?

When we’re talking about threesomes, FFM means “female, female, male”. It’s a threesome where there are two women and one man having sex.

Much of the time, this will involve a heterosexual couple bringing in another female, but it can be three strangers coming together. Generally, the women will be bisexual or at least hetero-flexible but that doesn’t have to be the case.

What is an MMF threesome?

MMF refers to a threesome that’s “male, male, female”. This type of threesome has two guys and woman getting down and dirty.

It’s as normal for the two men to have sex as it is for them to have sex with the women. However, it’s probably more common for the woman to get tongues, dicks, and fingers from both men and have all the attention on here.

When a woman takes a dick in her pussy and her ass at the same time, this is known as double penetration, or DP.

What is MMM and FFF?

As you’ve probably guessed by now, MMM or FFF is a threesome where everyone is the same gender – three men or three women.

It’s pretty safe to assume that each person in one of these threesomes is either gay or bisexual.

What happens during a threesome?

Anything can happen during a threesome, as long as each person taking part consents. It’s worth hammering out the consent in a conversation before – we’ll talk about this when we look at the rules in a moment.

When you take part in a three-way, you could have sex with just one of the other people or with both. It may be that you enjoy watching the other two people having sex before one of them swaps out.

Basically, anything can happen and it’ll be up to you and the people having the threesome. It may be a one-off situation or you might be part of a wider three-way relationship, sometimes called a throuple, and the sex you have changes the rules and the dynamics often.  

What’s a unicorn in a threesome?

A unicorn is a near-mythical creature; the person who joins a couple to make a threesome.

Finding a unicorn can be a challenge because most people won’t want to get involved in another couple’s relationship. Plus, with so few single men and women wanting to have a threesome, the chance of meeting someone in your area is also pretty slim.

It is definitely possible, though. It takes patience and time to find the person – or couple – that you want to have a threesome with.

What are the rules for a threesome?

Like with any sex or sexual situation, the rules are yours to make. No one can tell you, your partner, or the couple you join what to do or what you enjoy.

It is very useful in a threesome to talk openly and honestly before anything happens. If you’re part of a couple, you should talk even before you start unicorn-hunting. Some questions to think about include:

• Will one or both of you will have sex with the third person?
• What stuff will be allowed – pussy licking, anal, lesbian action?
• Who will be in contact with the third person?
• Is it going to be a one-time thing or do you want it to happen regularly?

Having answers to these questions will make sure you’re ready when you do find the extra man or woman of your shared dreams.

If you’re a single person aiming to get laid by a couple, you need to think about your boundaries, too. Do you want to only deal with one person in the relationship before you get to sex? Do you want to get to know them personally or purely meet to have sex?

Everyone entering into a three-way sex situation should be upfront about their wants and expectations so that nothing goes too far or to a place they don’t want.

Are you ready to try a threesome?

Arranging a threesome is a big step for a couple. It can be emotionally testing – someone that you have feelings for is going to have sex with a different person. Threesomes can be thrilling and exciting but emotions come with them that you need to be ready to talk through.

As a single person entering into the situation, remember that you’re being invited into an intimate moment as a guest. If you’re looking for a long-term arrangement or a regular meet-up, be ready to explain that.

Whatever happens, a threesome is supposed to be fun. Sometimes it can be awkward, but it everyone is honest about what they want and expect, it can also be the best sex of your life.