Fetishes and Kinks – What Are They and How to Work with Them

Sex workers deal with fetishes and kinks all day – they’re a common element of sexual desire. If you’re new to creating content and taking orders on a platform like SinParty, you might have some questions.

First off, consensual fetishes aren’t wrong, or bad, or naughty, or any other negative words. If a partygoer approaches you about their fetishes and kinks and you’re not into it, politely decline and let them go ask at another party.

If you’re curious about serving your fetish and kink buyers in more detail or are just curious about how sex and fetishes play together, you’re in the right place. Let’s take a look at:

• What a fetish and a kink really are
• When a fetish can become a problem
• Common fetishes and kinks you may come across
• How to find subscribers for your fetish party on SinParty

So you can understand, empathise, and work with fetish and kink material better, and hopefully make even more money from your content.

What is a fetish?

Probably best we reach for the dictionary definition of a fetish first:

In more human terms, A fetish is when someone is sexually into an object or action that’s not traditionally about sex – like feet or spanking.

Most people have probably been experimental with objects, ideas or body parts that weren’t meant for sex. Whether you’ve given a foot job, brought food into your sex, or done fantasy role play, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have a fetish.

Technically a fetish is when the item or action is needed and the person can’t get off without it. That’s not to say someone can’t call liking being paddled sometimes a fetish – most people don’t care about definitions as long as they’re having fun.

What the difference between a fetish and a kink?

A kink when something outside “normal” turns someone on, as compared to a fetish where it’s pretty much necessary to come.

Some people can take the definition very seriously and not like people confusing fetishes and kinks. From a content creator’s perspective, it’s best not to correct a partygoer if you think they say they have a kink and it’s actually a fetish.

When fetishes and kinks become a problem

There’s nothing wrong with having a fetish or a kink as long as everyone involved consents. If a partner or a subscriber enjoys you being blindfolded and you’re completely comfortable with it too, then go right ahead.

Some fetishes aren’t consensual and these can be a problem. Some forms of exhibitionism can be problematic, such as when someone flashes or has sex in a public place – ain’t nobody want to see that.

A fetish can go too far when it starts to consume a person and get in the way of their lives. This isn’t common, but it does happen. It can get so the person misses work so they can gratify themselves or spends money intended for bills or food paying someone to help with their fetish.

If you’re worried about someone with a fetish, talk to them and ask them to seek help if you feel safe to do so.

Common fetishes and kinks sex workers and content creators encounter

Lots of people with fetishes and kinks will ask people to help them fulfil their desires. This might because they don’t want to admit it to a partner or they struggle to find a partner who shares their desires.

This is where you, as a content creator, come in. If you’ve not come across it already, you’re likely to find people with kinks and fetishes who want to pay you to do things for them.

Some common kinks and fetishes you might encounter on SinParty include:

• Tattoos
• Bodily fluids
• Rubber
• Age play
• Furry costumes
• Bondage

And plenty more.

You don’t ever have to agree to any requests that are outside your comfort zone. On the flip side, if you’re happy working with partygoers with a fetish or kink, you can make a premium.

Being kink- and fetish-friendly is a selling point of your party. It’s worth noting the type of themes you cater for in your profile such as cosplay, roleplay, leather, domination, etc. This will help partygoers know what goes down at your party and if they want to join.

Where to find subscribers with fetishes and kinks

Lots of creators enjoy working with kinks and fetishes, and some might even call their work for SinParty a fetish. You might already be experienced working with this type of content and have clients and followers who are into it, but it not there are places to go looking.

First, you may be aware of the potential to find subscribers through Reddit. There are thousands and thousands of communities where people with niche interests gather to discuss them. You can search for general fetish subreddits or search for groups about the specific things you’re into.

Fetlife is a website that describes itself as “Like Facebook, but run by kinksters like you and me”. It’s important to be respectful – this is a long-established community of fetishists so building rapport and contributing to groups will be appreciated.

Fetishes and Kinks on SinParty

There are some key things to keep in mind when talking about kinky things:

• Never kink shame – don’t make people feel bad for what they’re into
• Keep it consensual – everyone involved must be consenting
• Don’t break the law – there are laws in lots of countries about porn, be aware of what you can do

You are always in control of the content that you make. If you’re not interested, you can say “no” or help your party goer find a creator who’s into the same thing.

Fetishes and kinks are fun to work with and play with, so go wild – if your dom will let you.